Roger Benson's Section
Technical & Equipment
Effective Diaper Domination
Slave Training Chastity Belt vs Diapers 2007
I got to thinking very early on how have males get away with it for so long.
Leaking spunk everywhere I mean. Wet Dreams, wanking, the mess they leave when
they ejaculate on clothing, the bed clothes, worse, on you and me.
If we women made a quarter as much sticky mess as the average male does, male
society would have introduced standards to demand we, ‘take measures’. Panty
pads, tampons and the like are indicators of the way society thinks. Hide it
away, keep it secret but men get away with the whole nine yards. I read the
following article many years ago and it got me thinking and not to say a little
claim no credit for the following and as you read on you will see most of the
pictures have a female sub in mind mores the pity. That aside if you change the genders
around I thoroughly recommend the content and ideas and it is great to see a
true role reversal can take place.
Of the many ways to capture and dominate your favourite sub, male or female,
is the use of
diapers which also offers unique potential. Unlike traditional bondage equipment, which
cannot usually be worn in public, diapers are generally hidden and if discovered
(intentionally or by accident) are presumed to be present due to medical
necessity. Therefore there is considerably more flexibility with diaper bondage
and less chance of undue attention from the authorities.
Traditional bondage serves to restrict a sub's mobility. Since it is in the
very nature of human beings to move, each time a sub attempts to find a more
comfortable position, it is reminded that the Top has removed this
privilege and that it is under the Top's control. But aside from having
been restricted, the sub's sense of self is generally intact. If invasive
devices such as dildos are used, the sub may feel penetrated by the top
but this effect is limited in its duration by bodily functions, among other
Diaper bondage is unique in that while the sub's body is not normally
penetrated (but this can be added easily) it is the sense of self that is under
control of the Top.
Toilet training is a cornerstone of our psychological processes. So much has
been written about its ramifications for adult life that little need be
mentioned here. The effect of diaper bondage is to defeat toilet training,
almost always against the sub's will. The injunctions against wetting and/or
soiling oneself are the strongest known to us. Therefore, when a sub is
confined to diapers for an extended period, these injunctions are confronted
within the subconscious of the sub's mind, causing anxiety, turmoil and
identification of the Top as a parent figure.
This serves the Top's interests well. The parent figure in our psyche is a
giver of comfort, nourishment, and a dispenser of discipline. Since most
children learn that rebellion against the parent's authority is futile; a child
posture in the sub can be pleasing for the Top. One of the objectives of
effective diaper domination is to use discomfort and embarrassment to push the
sub to a point where it will appeal the Top's use of diapers and
control can then be further enforced.
A sub in diapers is no less dependent on the Top than if it were in
bondage. As soon as the diapers are pinned and the plastic panties in place the
sub realizes that she or he has been deprived of the most basic and private
decision of adult life -- when and how to relieve oneself. It will not, at
first, occur to the sub that attempting to refrain from elimination will be
futile, that it is the Top's plan and desire that the sub suffer forced
incontinence. The sub will, instead, be initially concerned with the strange
feelings of the diaper such as the bulk between the legs which alters its walk
and the growing heat caused by the plastic panties. The second concern of the
sub will be its appearance. We are an image-based society and the sub
will have cultivated a personal image, which includes some degree of vanity.
Forcing an obviously diapered adult to mingle with the public forces the victim
to re-evaluate this image, causing more anxiety and distress. The Top may
take some assurance that anyone who guesses the cause of the bulges under the
sub's clothing will presume an innocent reason, but the sub has no such
comfort. Every strange look, every whispered comment will torture the sub with
the suspicion that someone has guessed that he or she is wearing diapers and
therefore less of an adult.
The most common objection to the use of diapers is that the sub's genitals are
bundled out of reach and use by the Top. While this is true, it is only an
obstacle when the session is intended to remain indoors. As soon as privacy is
lost, so too is the opportunity to fondle the sub intimately. Diaper bondage
offers the prospect of intense psychological effect on the sub during intervals
when even traditional bondage would be impractical.
Males and females react differently to the prospect of being forcibly confined
in diapers. While this likely has its roots in male vs. female ego, there are
some simpler explanations. Males depend on being able to see their genitals to
confirm their presence and state. Women's genitals are hidden and she must rely
on internal sensations to judge their condition, therefore it is not a new
sensation for her to be denied visual contact with her organs. A second point is
that all women of childbearing age are, in essence, incontinent for several days
each month. The menstrual cycle is a closely guarded subject normally amongst us
women and we
are often raised with injunctions to the effect that we are not to give any
indication that we are menstruating, discuss the subject with men, or
otherwise acknowledge it as a normal bodily function. "Discretion" is
the key word as the woman chooses the pads or tampons necessary to preserve her
clothing. A recent tampon advertisement criticized napkins (sanitary towels) for "feeling
like diapers", and no doubt this is true, considering that both disposable
diapers and feminine pads must feel alike to the sensitive vulva. Therefore for
a woman the prospect of being diapered offers little novelty. She is used to
having to care for an uncontrolled release of fluid from her body and taking
great pains to conceal the activity from everyone else. This helps to explain
that female diaper fetishists are rare (but much sought after by males of the
Males lack this training in incontinence and its camouflage. They also lack the
convenience of full skirts to hide the bulges under clothing. Even the slimmest
diaper on a male will cause obvious changes to his outline. And since, as has
been demonstrated, this outline is a key element of his self-perception, it is
here that the Top begins to make inroads in domination.
Masters and Mistresses wishing to obtain the basic necessities for diaper domination will not
have to look far. There is a wide range of adult disposable diapers available at
most drug stores. While effective for their intended use, such diapers are
usually not absorbent or thick enough to serve well in diaper domination.
Plastic pants can be had from medical supply stores and are a definite necessity
both for their practical and psychological properties. Disposable adult diapers
may be supplemented with unbacked disposables which permit drainage into the
outer diaper. This adds extra bulk between the legs, which is necessary to
provide the discomfort that is a fundamental element of the process. On the
subject of discomfort and disposable diapers of all types. Most manufactures go
to great lengths to ensure the wearer feels comfortable and 'dry' in their
products and this is done by them using a special 'dry' top layer.
It is important that your sub can actually
feel when they wet themselves (imagine that!). The use of a simple single
thickness cotton liner or a thicker cotton diaper insert is all that is
required to conveniently defeated this innovation. Do not be tempted to use the
100% polyester liners that are sold as they too are completely
non-absorbent, and so provide just as an affective stay-dry layer as already
Cloth diapers are easily made although they can be purchased -
See LINKS PAGE for suppliers. Generally about four can be
made from cutting up a single size flannel bed sheet. Normal baby pins can be
used but some purists purchase women's kilt pins to provide a larger, more
babyish fastener. Two toddler disposables, taped end to end, and placed inside
the cloth diaper increase absorbency and offer protection from soiling. Purpose
made pads like the Abri-let Maxi by Abena. Different sizes are available but
this one being 16 x 61 cm makes it ideal for this purpose and they can be
used on there own if desired for light protection. Pads of this nature are
normal offered by the maker with and without plastic backing so check
Whatever the materials used the primary objective for the Top using diapers on
a sub are discomfort, visibility, efficiency, and security. Here we can use the five basic senses
to guide our play very effectively …
sight, hearing, touch, smell and taste.
Discomfort serves to remind the diapered subject that she or he is indeed in diapers
and will, sooner or later, be forced to use them for eliminations. All diapers
are uncomfortable to an adult unused to wearing them but this discomfort can be
increased through a variety of simple measures.
The first discomfort enhancer is bulk. Here we are using the sense touch, especially between the legs.
Bulk can be
accomplished by adding extra diapers to the crotch of the diaper (cloth or
disposable respectively) thus forming a soaker panel which is rigid enough not
to be compressed by the sub's walking action. In fact, it will force the sub
to walk slightly bow-legged in a manner best described as a waddle. The sub
will be unable to escape this pressure between the legs, which in the male
especially can be quite uncomfortable. When walking the male's inner thighs will
chafe on the diaper and when sitting the extra bulk will be pressed against his
genitals. This latter effect is especially useful for long trips on public
transit when the male has no choice but to sit and endure whatever his Top
has put on him.
So the first sense we can use is touch but it can be
used in other ways additional restraints, flogging or patting the diapered
butt for example.
The second discomfort enhancer again associated with the touch sense is heat. The presence of plastic panties will cause
a trapping of body heat and the resulting perspiration will with little effort make a diaper damp
and uncomfortable. The amount of heat retained can be increased by doubling up
with disposable diapers and adding an extra pair(s) of plastic panties or
bloomers. These measures,
in turn, can be amplified by coating the diaper area with Vaseline, which
impedes perspiration. (Do not get any Vaseline on plastic articles as it will
cause them to crack and harden). Consideration may also be given to restrictive clothing
such as girdles. It should be noted that most disposable adult diapers become
very itchy when worn for extended periods. Therefore extended confinement in
them, especially with some of the other measures discussed, will have your sub
squirming and begging for relief within hours, whether it has wet and soiled or
The remaining discomfort enhancers are used occasionally, for special sessions
or punishments. Mustard plaster on the rear cheeks is effective as a long-term
punishment since the resulting burn will last several days whether the sub is
diapered or not. Shaving the pubic hair is favored as a routine discomfort
enhancement since the sub is unable to scratch at the predictable itch and is
usually forbidden to touch its diapers and plastic pants.
Plus shaving your subs pubes makes cleanup
Butt and vaginal plugs, especially
those with harnesses are often used to create a background haze of discomfort
and forestall soiling when it is not desired. A sub diapered in this manner
will appear dazed and distracted, which may attract more attention from the
public. Such devices are especially useful when the sub may normally be required to
change its own diapers say on an aircraft, thus providing itself some limited
comfort while being constantly reminded that you the Top is still in control.
A Top's second consideration when confining a sub to diapers is
visibility and here we use the sense of sight. While adult diaper manufacturers have worked strenuously to make
their products less obtrusive, these efforts must be defeated if the sub is to
suffer humiliation in public (real or imagined). In summer this is often accomplished by the use of
shorts with a male sub that are too small to cover all of the plastic panties. Thus the
confront the reality that his secret is always open to viewing should anyone
look closely enough. In winter the sub should be forced to wear pants that
allow the diaper bulge to show prominently and no top coat should be allowed.
Diaper visibility in female requires different strategies. Skirts that are
short enough to allow brief glimpses of the bulging plastic panties are fine for
summer. Shorts with very wide leg openings are also useful, especially if the
female is to be taken shopping for shoes, in which situation the clerk would get
an unimpeded view of her diapered crotch. In winter a female could be forced to
wear a garter belt and stockings under a skirt that is both too tight and slit
too high to conceal either her garters or her plastic panties. If the stockings
are seamed, with reinforced heels, she will attract a lot of attention from
males, to add to her distress.
When at home, both male and female subs should not be permitted any covering
over their diapers unless it is of a disciplinary or control
nature. The shirt-and-diapers uniform is common to toddlers because it offers
the ability to instantly discern the condition of the wearers diaper, no less is true of
the diapered sub. A secondary benefit is that the sub is forced to see its
diapers all the time, knowing they cannot be removed or altered without
intervention from you the Top. In this state of undress, the sub should be
forced to perform chores, which may result in them being observed by strangers.
These can be in the form of retrieving the morning paper, hanging out the
laundry, or being outside sunbathing for a suitable length of time. A diaper
provides a much more modest cover for the lower body than any swimsuit bottom or
G-string would do so in the end what is the problem? Visibility can be further
increased by the use of
coloured and/or patterned panties which catch the
observers eye more readily.
Some activities require additional clothing. A sub sent to do the laundry in a
Laundromat or apartment laundry should be dressed in too-small shorts and
shirt that is cut short enough to ride up the back as soon as the sub bends
over. This exposes the top of the plastic pants, especially if they are coloured
as the sub's
instinctive reaction is to keep pulling the shirt down which merely attracts more
attention. Sight is sometimes the most
overestimated sense of the five. In fact, in familiar surroundings, it often fails to give
as much input as we expect so constant efforts in this area must be made. Ever looked for your keys only to have someone else
find them right out in the open where you already looked? Sight 'takes for
granted' the things it expects to see in an environment so you the Top needs to
ensure the state of the sub is beyond question. When sight of your sub is blocked,
however, its other senses heighten to make up for the loss. This is part of the
fight or flight response. Peripheral vision, that is, seeing something out of
the corner of the eye, can become very acute when a sub is under stress and
it can be very unnerving to see something move in and out repeatedly from their
field of vision, especially when they are restrained or blindfold.
The selection of the subs plastic
panties should not be overlooked. Here again many manufactures design their
panties to be quite. To defeat this is easy and I would recommend panties or
bloomers made from a polyurethane (plastic) material called Euroflex. This is
a particular favourite of mine. Ultra soft, translucent, very thin yet
extremely strong with a rubbery feel. Plus they crackle when worn and although
they are more expensive than normal plastic they tend to last longer. See the
links for either Plastic Pants Com or LLMedico lower down for details.
Disposable diapers and well-worn plastic
pants can be noisy and here we are looking at the sense of hearing. The crackling sounds can be quite loud and attract attention
from passers by in shopping malls and airports. In addition, these materials are
noisy to take off and put on, so if your sub must change its diaper in a public
washroom it will not be possible to for it to do so discreetly.
Hearing is also important to the general scene certainly in the way you as the Top gives commands. Sounds like the
rustle of rubber or plastic, water running, the clank of metal all heighten
The Top thinking to phrase simple questions like, 'how are our plastic panties
then?' 'Have we soiled our diaper then?' can be effective on two levels. The
first is the simple question which must of course be answered fully, do not
accept a simple yes or no. The deeper one is
induced by the use of words like 'our' and 'we'. You the Top, are further reinforcing
your control as the sub will be well aware that only it is directly
effected by the diaper and the 'our' and 'we' only serves indicates who controls the
regime. When a person is
subject to sensory deprivation, hearing is, an open door to the subconscious. The subconscious is the place where
dreams are made, and it detests gaps in information. If it has only half a
story, it will make the rest up… so, if your sub can't see you, but perhaps can
feel you near, and hear you laugh. The mind will make up the reason you
Another element to noticability is smell. Adult diaper companies do not yet
add fragrances to their products but this is no impediment to the ambitious
Top. Males are especially susceptible to the torment of being sent out
into public with the sweet fragrances of scented Vaseline, baby powder and
lotion preceding him like a cloud. There are two available from
which enable you to recreate those familiar aromas
from childhood. Mommies Diaper Fresh Scent and Mommies Powder Fresh Scent
are two scents designed to make a diaper or just about anything you want
smell just like original baby diapers or the sweet, aroma of baby powder.
Any sub subjected to these will be very aware of perfumed cloud that surrounds
them and have no way of avoiding it! Of course, if desired, the sub can be made
to soil itself (laxatives and suppositories are useful) and this is the most
humiliating visibility factor of all. As a punishment glycerine suppositories are
very effective. Simply restrain your sub diapered on a bed spread-eagled,
administer 3 –4 suppositories and simply leave them to it for an hour or so
with the command they must remain clean or else. It is effective and your sub
will need punishing for that I am sure. Having added extra bulk, several pairs
of plastic panties and perhaps double diapers, the competent Top has
already addressed many concerns for efficiency. However long trips, extended
punishment periods or the deliberate cultivation of diaper rash require
innovation. In situations where the sub must be capable of changing its diaper,
such as on an aircraft, it is possible to keep the sub wet and safe at the same
time. You have a choice of using either a cloth or a disposable diaper
to accomplishes this. If a cloth diaper is used, fit it as normal but sew the cloth diaper on so the
sub cannot remove
it (you may wish to insert a butt plug before doing so) but do use pins to take
the strain off the thread. If a disposable is being used, pierce the outer
plastic cover with numerous small cuts to allow drainage and secure it on with several
around the waist passes of wide packing tape or better still silver duct tape.
Make sure the tape is very snug because the diaper will sag when wet, allowing
the sub to remove and replace it. In both cases an additional cloth or disposable diaper
fastened over the first diaper and plastic or rubber pants added. When necessary, the
can be sent to change its self with the instruction not to remove the first
diaper. They will not become dry, nor will they have an
opportunity to play with themselves. The sense of smell can be further used by
the simple reuse of soiled waterproof pants. (I always keep a pair of wet
panties handy for this reason and for use as a punishment by fitting them over
my subs head-make the punishment fit the crime?) The sub will initially be
comfortable after their diaper change but will be reminded constantly of their
eventual condition. Obviously don't forget to reinforce this by reminding them
of this by using the hearing sense to constantly remind them of their 'smelly' condition. Taste is probably the least used sense
in diaper bondage. It is however closely related to
smell, and in fact, it is not possible for your sub to taste when it cannot smell.
the nose closed works to help get your sub to swallow noxious medicines like
castor oil, try it.
If efficiency is a concern, the use of bloomer style plastic pants may be
effective. These extend part way down the leg and while helpful in preventing
occasional leaking, are very uncomfortable, especially in summer. These pants
are often used for punishment purposes. When placed on females wearing a short skirt or
a male in white cotton shorts it is almost impossible to conceal them properly.
The element of security is concerned with the ability of the sub to alter or
escape the punishment of wearing diapers. This is unacceptable and must be
prevented at all costs. There are two strategies, to secure the diaper, or to
secure the clothing, which covers it.
Securing the diaper allows the sub to be kept in the state of half-undress
described earlier. It is also useful if the sub is to be displayed to the
Top's friends or is sleeping away from home and the customary bed
restraints. It allows the sub's hands to be free, permitting the assignment of
chores. Generally a chastity belt design is used with a wide crotch band secured
to a sturdy belt. The lock may be discreet or not at the mistress's pleasure.
Such a device increases the discomfort of the diaper, makes soiling more
unpleasant and can forestall attempts at masturbation through the diaper. It may
be used on both males and females but the former will suffer more from its
effects. Among its disadvantages are that it can tear the plastic pants and that
a male can sometimes gain access to his genitals through a leg opening
unmonitored allowing urination.
Securing the clothing which covers the diaper is more efficient in preventing
masturbation but can be less convenient in other areas. Total body cover suits
can be locked at the neck with a small lock and are deliberately made to prevent
access to the genital area. This will prevent the sub from removing the garments
you have put on it and also playing with itself. Many types of this sort of
garment are available as they are used in hospitals and the like. Home made
items can be trimmed and styled as you like and if based on shorts, chains at
the cuffs will prevent access from that point. Such chains can be discreet, if
necessary. Further reading on this subject HERE
An alternative is to use pantyhose on both males and females. A stout pair of
control top should be used. The garment is placed on the male and then a fine
wire or chain is passed through the waistband and locked. The male cannot get
access from the leg openings and there is the additional benefit of compression
from the girdle-like panty. Males especially are humiliated by being made to
wear pantyhose. Forcing your male to go out in public wearing only shorts over
his hosiery or alternatively wearing slacks can enhance this but also sandals
which reveal his secret to all whom happen to look down. Since there is no
plausible reason for a male to be wearing hosiery, the potential for extreme
embarrassment is high. If pantyhose are used on a female, use of the seamed
variety will be effective; bloomer style panties would add to her distress,
especially if the skirt was short. A point to remember though that any cloth
garments can be ripped and sharp instruments like scissors can make short work
of removing even the most secure garment but you will know that interference has
taken place and can react accordingly.
Once the sub is securely bound in diapers and plastic pants the Top's
concern turns to measures, which will aggravate the sub's condition. Excessive
fluid intake, diuretics and laxatives are the most common measures adopted. In
the case of fluids, the properly diapered sub, left alone, will have no choice
but to wet its diapers. This can be rewarding for the Top especially during
the first few occasions when diapers are used. The sub fights its toilet
training all the while knowing that the inevitable cannot be forestalled.
Unfortunately, subs usually become accustomed to wetting within a few weeks and
there is no longer any entertainment value for the Top in this act. At this
stage the Top may wish to insert a catheter into the sub before diapers
are applied, thus forcing true incontinence. Again, the initial results are
pleasing, since the sub is rendered into a true incontinent state. Remember
that prolonged use of catheters can cause infection and that these devices
forestall ejaculation in the male.
The decision of whether or not to force a sub to soil itself depends on the
preferences of the Top. Remember the sub can perform the necessary
cleansing operations and be punished if the cleansing operation is not thorough.
Forced soiling can produce spectacular results in a novice sub and should be
experienced at least once to judge its value. Since all subs attempt to avoid
the experience of soiling, some encouraging measures may be required. Generally
the process of moving the bowels will be enhanced with the additional fluid
intake, but if immediate results are required, 3 or 4 glycerine suppositories
work wonders. An alternative is to begin feeding bulk laxative to the sub
approximately 24 hours before diaper confinement is to begin. Each
administration of the laxative reminds the sub of the punishment to come and
the fact that it will be made to soil. This may result in whining and
begging-off on the part of the sub, which the Top may wish to address once
the session has begun.
A soiled diaper on an adult gives off a distinct aroma. Unless severe
humiliation, in the form of knowledgeable attention from the public, is desired,
soiled subs should be kept at least 15 feet aware from innocent by-standers.
of the most rewarding aspects of forcing a sub to soil while diapered is the
knowledge that it confronts one of the major injunctions of psychological
development and causes tremendous anxiety in the sub. A wet diaper can feel
like a wet bathing suit but the adult sub will not have experienced the
sensations of a dirty diaper since being a small child. The knowledge that it
has messed itself and is unable to do anything about it until you the Top
agrees, will torture unmercifully.
Soiling is most traumatic for a sub during the first hour after messing. During
this time the sub will be aware of little else but the condition of its diaper
and the strange sensation of its own effluent being spread about inside it.
However beyond this initial phase, there is little to be gained by prolonged
confinement in the messy diaper unless a rash is desired or the sub is being
forced to sleep in its mess as a punishment. Cleansing operations are generally
easier if attempted as soon as possible.
Sub's will become accustomed to soiling if subjected to the procedure on a
regular basis. A Top wishing to avoid this may choose to make the process
more uncomfortable or difficult with the use of butt plugs, chastity-type
retention belts, or tight clothing. Forcing the sub to soil while in
semi-public places or in the presence of friends of the Top is also very
effective. In the latter case the sub may be secured outside for a time in
consideration of the comfort of the guests.
Diaper domination makes use of some equipment, which might not be found in
routine male training situations. Fortunately this equipment is light and
portable and therefore lends itself to travel and over-night use.
The most important aspect of diaper bondage is that the sub must be rendered
helpless to adjust, change or remove its diapers. The security devices discussed
earlier are effective but are not always appropriate. The most common long-term
bondage appliances are rigid mittens, which limit the use of the hands and
Medical restraints are available without question from medical supply stores or
you may fabricate them. Any design that keeps the hand from being able
to grasp and prevents use of the fingers and which may be fastened securely is
acceptable. Without the use of its hands or fingers, the sub is helpless to
affect its diapered condition. The sub may be left alone in the house suitably
restrained and able to perform only limited functions. It may, for instance, be
able to answer the phone but dialling out is impossible. Sub's in this condition
will certainly attempt masturbation in the form of rubbing themselves through their
diapers. Since the sensations produced if correctly diapered in this manner merely remind the
its diapered condition, it may be allowed. The sub may also be told that
evidence of masturbation (most obvious in the male) will be punished severely.
A useful tell-tail of masturbation, if the sub is in disposable diapers, is the
condition of the paper wadding which makes up the diaper core in the area of the
genitals. It this is This is a sure sign that masturbation has at least been
attempted. There are various products on the market which can aid in this and Checkmate is
effective and recommended. The use of only mittens to restrain a male can
produce unexpected and yet pleasing results since the sub feels quite free but
yet is prevented from the one thing it wants most, to be out of its
Restrictive clothing is used most often when the sub is being put down for the
night. A straight jacket is the most effective garment to use but any thing
which securely encloses the diapered area and or restricts the wearers limbs is
good. One-piece sleepers are most effective here since the sense of confinement
adds to the effects of having been forced to wear and use diapers. If rigid
mittens have not been incorporated into the garment they may be added to prevent
the sub from removing the garment during the night. Sleepers should if possible cover the
feet, be cut generously in the crotch and fasten at the back of the neck. The
ability to lock the main zipper is handy but not necessary if mittens and a
simple tie are used.
A brief word about punishment—always make it fit the crime.
of the primary advantages of diaper domination and bondage is that a
"scene" may be protracted over several days or weeks without undue
wear on either the mistress or the sub. Since, aside from being kept in
diapers, the sub is able to function normally; there is no need to end a scene
in order to provide for nourishment or rest. Therefore scenes can be integrated
into normal life, such as the sub being made to attend cocktail parties,
sporting events, theatre, and social evenings while in diapers. Each of these
situations presents the sub with a different set of potential opportunities for
discovery. Longer outings will, of course, require a change of diapers and the
diaper bag being present is often a major embarrassment in itself. Regular and
frequent physical checks of the diapers should be made with the aim to humiliate
and enforce in the mind of the wearer your control over his or his body. Don't
forget the senses, hearing? Ask
questions in the third person like, ‘how are our rubbers then?.’ Do we need
changing?’ ‘Are our plastic panties uncomfortable?’ Follow these with lots
of pats on the butt, fussing and adjusting or pulling up of the garments.
Diaper domination is most effective when the sub is kept sexually aroused but
denied orgasms. Oral servicing of you the Top will see to your needs but I can
not stress highly enough that your
sub should be kept sexually frustrated. The
unusual sensations on and around the genitals will help, as will often the
enforced humiliation. I would strongly advise that you be prepared to stimulate
your sub when rewards are due just to the point of orgasm as this will reinforce the pleasure/pain
aspects of true diaper domination. If you are concerned that your sub is
achieving orgasm I would suggest an increase in the padding used and/or
the use of a chastity device. For female subs these, when used under a diaper
even a relatively simple belt will prove very frustrating to the wearer and thus
very effective. For a male sub I would recommend only the CB2000 device at the
moment. The wise Top will show compassion when it is called for, but will never
allow it to be the occasion for relaxing the routine of diaper discipline or for
moderating the punishments that the recipients constantly attract.
Once you start your must be determined in your task and not ease off. Your
sub will most certainly try to challenge you and try and avoid the discipline. This is
where harsh and strict punishment needs to be applied and with maybe a little
which works well for both sexes.
Diaper Domination is done correctly the final result will be a charming, decorative, demure
and compliant sub who will be a credit to you.
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V D L or (Visable
Diaper Line) and other practical questions answered
After the above was posted I found I want to expand little further and also answer a few regular questions about general care.
When you take your sub out you
have two options in my view. One is to keep diapering to a level where it is
effective but not noticeable and the second
it is even more effective and visible. To what level it up to you as the nurse.
Remember you control your sub and every and I mean every element of this
process. As I have said earlier, thing like noisy plastic pants (these are a
must) will boost the subs awareness of their diapered state but there is nothing
better to increase a subs awareness of its state than giving it a VDL (Visible
Diaper (nappy) Line. Most girls worry about a VPL (visible panty line) don't
they? Just think of the impact a VDL will have on your sub! A reasonably thick
'overnight' diaper will do, but if you want to pile on the humiliation and give
your sub a good mind fuck it is a good idea to pad one of these out further with
a 'booster' pad or two or even three dependent on the type/s you have available
A tight skirt or pants in the case of a male is all that is needed to get
them squirming to be allowed to hide or cover up. If you can go for while
cotton, especially for shorts as it give the chance of show through. A request
to hide or cover up must be stoutly resisted. In your mind you must
remember that most members of the public who will see your sub will not even
notice the padding. Those that do notice it will almost certainly think it is
for medical reasons. There may even be a few who will wish secretly that they
were in your subs position!
A few people have asked recently for recommendations for which manufactures
briefs are the 'best' for containment and 'show'. This is hard as it does not
always follow and there are other factors to take into account The smart ass
answer is the ones you like I suppose but If you want me to be helpfull, well,
let's see how one of my favourites, the Abena X-Plus brief "stacks up" against
Depend® overnight briefs..
you can see, each Abena brief contains far more absorbent material than one of
the best that the leading brand has to offer. If you check the statistics you
will find the Abena will contain more than almost all of the leading brands.
Plus the construction and design are very good.
Up to 40% fewer changes if you are keeping your sub in them 24/7.
Less chance of (embarrassing) leaks.
Your sub will be sleeping though the night without the need for a change.
Going out for dinner etc, without having to worry about finding a place to
change your sub.
Consider that by the time you use up a bag of Abena briefs, you may have gone
through almost two times as many ordinary briefs, not to mention an extra load
of laundry! That is why I have found the Abena brief to be more
economical than the usual store brands.
Other tips? Don't forget to use a wrap of gaffer tape around the waist. This
not only reinforces the tapes which with most diapers are pathetic and only
just up to the job but also makes it so anyone with a half decent waist can
not take their diaper off without it being obviously damaged. I would also
suggest you tape over the tapes to reinforce the side joins after you have
done the waist. Pull enough tape off your roll so it overlaps the side depth
by a couple of inches or more. Wrap/stick the overlap over and to the inside
of the diaper.
There, all nice a snug to go out once we have our rubbers on.
Don't forget a pacifier. Any decent from your sub and you should pop one in
your subs mouth. If
you can get the type with a clip on cord, get one as it
makes a charming accessory.
Buying one can be fun if you let your sub pick one out. Make sure a 3 year old
plus size is selected. If not make sure you loudly state why the one selected
is of no use. Don't forget the right color and
don't let it be taken out until you give permission. Requests to remove it (if
you can understand them He, he) lengthen the time. Golden rule the sub is not
allowed to touch her pacifier with her hands. If she drops it she must get
down on her hands and knees to retrieve it
with her mouth. Reward this clumsiness with half an hour corner time and 6
swats of the paddle. If the hands are used at any time treble both the corner
time and the swats.
http://www.airoliver.de/save/ supplies the
Nuk Medic Pro L which has a nipple almost
twice the size of
a standard pacifier. Look under
Pacifiers/ Dummies on the side bar.
There is a rumour of a size 5 being available but as of now I have not been
able to find one. Can you help? If so contact me via The Institute.
On the subject of going out don't forget the
golden opportunity of a fancy dress party. If your going to one great and you
can really mind fuck your sub while you are at it but also
its a great answer
should anyone ask why your sub is dressed the way. 'Oh we are going to a fancy
dress party', works very well be assured! It helps if you are
also dressed in a party manor yourself to pull this off effectively but
it is not essential.
And then there are cloth
diapers. OK we were not talking about diapers but I want to. Personally I love
the way my sub's buns looks in a pinned prefold..................................................
So cloth diapers, the main types are
pre-fold, fitted and all-in-ones. Pre-fold diapers are rectangular shaped and
are divided into 3 sections than span the length of the diaper. The middle is
the thickest section with 6 to 8 layers of fabric. The outer sections usually
are four layers. Then there are fitted diapers which resemble disposable
diapers. They have a contoured shape and have gathered elastic edges around
the legs. Instead of tape, they are fastened with Velcro or snaps. You can
also have them made without fasteners so you can pin or fold into plastic or
I have already mentioned plastic panties. They are optional but advisable in
my opinion with disposables but cloth diapering requires two pieces, the
diaper and a waterproof cover. The main reason for separating the diapers from
the covers is that diapers require more rigorous cleaning and can wear out the
waterproof quality of an attached cover. I find that having these two pieces
separate just makes buying diapers more fun. You can mix and match covers,
find covers with cute prints, or buy different kind for day or evening wear.
Separate covers can be reused several times between washings and can be hand
or machine washed when necessary. Still if you want, you can invest in AIOs
(All In Ones). These are basically fitted diapers with the waterproof cover
already sewn on. Since these are more expensive and require more care than I
prefer to reserve these for outings.
While there are many cloth diaperers that prefer to pin, pins are no longer a
necessity with cloth. You have already read about fitted diapers and AIOs
which can be closed with attached fasteners like Velcro or snaps. However if
you want to stick with the economical prefold, you have pinless alternatives.
You can enclose your prefold in plastic panties. Alternately you can use
snappy clips, which are Y shaped plastic fasteners that have claws at each end
to grab and hold the diapers in place.
Personally I love the way my sub looks in a pinned prefold. Pinning is easy
once you get the hang of it. One trick I I picked up from our daughter is to
stick my pins in a bar of soap between uses. The soap provides a coating that
makes the pin slide right through the diaper the next time...this makes a big
difference when trying to diaper a wriggly child.
If dirty diapers scare you, don't worry. Today's washing machines do all of
the work. For dirty diapers, simply shake out loose pieces into the toilet
bowl and dunk if necessary and put the diaper in the pail. If this still
bothers you, use paper thin flushable liners between your sub's bottom and the
diaper. You never have to touch the poop!
My method for washing diapers consists of 4 steps:
= Overnight Soak. I place all diapers in the washer with cold water and ½ cup
of baking soda. Baking soda is key here. It is very effective in whitening and
removing the urine smell from the diapers. I let the diapers soak in a baking
soda solution for at least 8 hours, usually overnight.
= Hot Wash. I drain the water from the soak and re-fill the washing machine
with hot water, liquid fragrance-free laundry detergent and more baking soda.
= Rinse. For the rinse I use cold water, add ½ cup of vinegar, this softens
the diapers and balances the PH balance of the diapers.
= 2nd Rinse: For this final rinse I use cold water only.
Many people think a cloth diaper pail is smellier than a disposable diaper
one. I found the contrary to be true. Since I flush poops down the toilet
there is less to stink up the room. With disposable diapers, you usually have
dirty diapers sitting for days. Even through a Diaper Genie TM, I have been
able to detect the scent of a dirty diaper. Therefore, unless you take the
Diaper Genie TM out to the garage to remove the diapers when it is full, your
play room will stink of week old dirty diapers for a few hours.
On the few occasions when my diaper pail starts to emit a bad odor, I simply
sprinkle baking soda (again!)
When washing diapers make sure to use fragrance free detergent in the wash
and vinegar in rinse. Also avoid borax, bleach, soap detergents and fabric
softener. Bleach and borax break down diaper fibers. Soap and fabric softener
reduce the absorbency of diapers. If your sub gets diaper rash with cloth
diapers chances are you have done something wrong.
So there you have it cloth diapering in a nutshell. Now you that have the
basic information try it out for yourself! It's fun, fashionable, easier than
you thought and a great way to keep a sub just where you want them..
I have had a few questions about changing a diaper. Let
me start by saying It's just poop people, it isn't toxic waste
and your sub's poop isn't any more disgusting than my grandchild's
poop. Whether it is elephant poop or pigeon poop, it's still poop. Soap and
water works, incontinence products work and there is no reason to characterize
any of this as filth. These are not terms we apply to infants in similar
conditions. If your put of by odours use a mask with a small amount of perfume
OK lets get to it and I'll write this as if a disposable has been used as the
process for both is very similar. Most of the time I let my sub clean herself up
but I always insist it is me who fits the fresh diaper as it is at this time I
decide if anything like suppositories or booster pads are need. if I decide to
change her and I frequently do I use a
diaper pail with lid, two
plastic dish bowls, one for wet and soapy
wash cloths, and one for the used washcloths. I start by
placing the plastic bowl containing the soapy wash cloths and the water soaked
wash cloths within easy reach of my sub. The other bowl can sit on the floor to
receive the used wash cloths.
Slide a plastic garbage bag under the torso and over the
pad/towel combination. I've tried other water proof sheets such as cut up
shower curtains and table cloths and the garbage bags work the best. They are
slippery enough to slide under the body without disturbing the sub very much.
First pull on some latex gloves. Undo all the tabs on the
front of the brief and/or cut any duct tape used to secure it.
If you are dealing with urine only, you can remove the pad
entirely, slide a new pad into place under the body, wipe your person with a
damp cloth, pat on some lotion and close the tabs of the brief and refit the
If you are dealing with a bowel movement, fold the front panel
tabs into the center and roll the center panel in towards the body from the top
until it is down by the crotch. Use the pad itself to wipe as much of the
bowel movement as possible. Fold back the side panels into themselves.
Use a baby crib pad/bath towel combination as
a draw sheet. It should be in place under the body of your sub and this should
be part of the regular bedding. This combination will absorb any run over of
urine without getting the sheeting wet and is more easily laundered and changed
than the entire sheet is. It also acts as
a draw sheet. By holding two corners on one side of the bed and gently raising
it in the air it will gently roll your sub on to their side. Make sure they
don't crash into bed rails or smother in a pillow.
Remove the used pad, also wiping up as much of
the bowel movement as possible. Discard it into the pail.
Using soapy wash cloths, clean the bottom area
and between the legs.
Rinse with the wet wash cloths, dry and apply
lotion, or what ever lubricant you choose. Wipe your hands.
Take a clean brief, open it up so that the
panels are flat, hold in place on the body with your hand while you gently roll
the sub back onto their back.
Repeat the process of washing and cleaning the
front of their body.
Pull the front panel up through the legs and
attach the tabs. Duct tape at this stage if your sub is going to be
active. It is at this stage I frequently fit a pair of cotton
briefs with a booster pad to catch any overflow of urine. Finally, fit a
pair of plastic panties and restrain and/or dress as required.
Only when my sub is fully dressed and secured
do I deal with the clean up.
An important note first. Make sure your
hands do not have any of this lubricant on them when you close up the brief.
The tabs will not stick if any of the lubricant gets on the diaper surface. Also
many oils and lubricants attack the plastic used in plastic panties making it
brittle and shortening their life. So what do I use? I used cold pressed castor oil which
puts a solid shield of lubricant on her skin which acts as a buffer between it and
her body waste. Castor oil has long been known as a healing agent in the Middle
East and is widely used in homeopathic medicine as a healing agent on the skin. It
doesn't hurt to also give your sub a few table spoonfuls of castor oil while you
have the bottle handy.
"Bag Balm" which is now available in Cosco as well as numerous drug stores and
department stores is another healing agent that presents a very good buffer
between skin and bodily waste. It is often used by new mothers treating diaper
rash. In any event, use something.
Like everyone of all ages who wears diapers my
sub has bough's of diaper rash. It is very important to keep on top of this.
You will be amazed at how quickly castor oil cleared it up. My sister had tried
everything including doctor's prescriptions to clear up her twin's diaper rash.
A elder from the Onondaga Tribe south of Syracuse suggested Bag Balm. The
diaper rash began to improve immediately.
Care of Plastic Pants
Detergents and bleach easily strip the
elements from plastic that make it soft and pliable. For long life of
plastic products and to preserve softness follow these instructions:
1. NEVER machine wash. Always wash by hand soon after use.
2. Never use Detergent. Use only mild hand soap containing no perfumes or
deodorants for best results Example: Ivory Bar soap.
3. Always hang dry away from heat source
4. Never use a gas or electric dryer
Additional Care for Tinted
Wash plastic garments with a mild
soap and then rinse it in fresh water after use. Wash your plastic panties
separately until any excess dye washes out. Some plastic's will bleed a little
with the first few washings. This is normal, the bleeding will stop. Most
bright colors will fade in the sun. You can slow this down by soaking your
new panties in a mixture of vinegar and water for 30 minutes. (1 tablespoon
vinegar to 1 quart of water) Do not line dry in the sun, it is well worth
will hanging them outside to dry but do so in
the shade. Avoid hot tubs, Jacuzzis, and highly chlorinated pools. Wash
in warm water only. Never: bleach, put it in the dryer, iron it, or wash it
with whites. Do not sit on abrasive objects (sit on a towel when at the
pool or on a boat.) Avoid oil based suntan lotions. Most oils are harmful
to plastic fabrics.
How to Wash Diapers
To Pre-soak or not to Pre-soak? A lot of people think you absolutely have
to pre-soak all of your subs diapers, soiled or not. I'm not one of them
but it is up to you. Here are my reasons for NOT using a "wet pail". A wet pail,
filled with water and wet/soiled diapers is very heavy. The diapers are clean
and smell fresh, even without using one. If the diaper is soiled swish the
solids off the diaper in the toilet (diaper dunking) and place it in a "dry
pail" until washing day. Don't forget to wash your hands! A note regarding
toilet dunking: DO NOT use any "drop in" toilet cleaner if you are a diaper
dunker! The chemicals will eat away at the diapers in a hurry.
If you choose to use a dry pail, simply put the soiled diapers in the pail
until wash day. If you have a problem with odors, sprinkle a little baking
soda in the pail. Any that gets on the diapers will just be washed out.
Another natural deodorizing option in to soak a cloth in vinegar and put
it in the bottom of the pail and wash with the diapers.
Run the diapers through the soak cycle using cold water, no detergent.
Wash the diapers on the "heavy soil" setting with hot water, a full scoop
of detergent and 1/2 cup of baking soda. Last cycle. This time I use the
regular setting with hot water and 1/2 cup of distilled white vinegar. The
vinegar helps remove the ammonia smell, any excess laundry detergent left
behind and works like a fabric softener.
Do not use bleach. It will
wear out the diapers faster and can cause diaper rash. If you dislike
stains on your diapers use a enzyme stain treatment to remove them. Just
make sure to rinse all of the enzyme stain treatment out of your diapers!
Do not use fabric softener. The fabric softener will reduce the
absorbency of the diapers and can cause diaper rash.
If using a dryer. Dry no more than 6-8
diapers at a time to allow room for circulation. Clean lint trap half way
through drying process. Line drying diapers and plastic pants outside
helps eliminate stains and the sunshine also sanitizes them. Plus it is a
free way to dry the diapers! You may want to "fluff" them in the dryer, on
LOW for about 5 or 10 minutes if they come off the clothesline stiff.
Remember. Always wash a new diaper before you wear it for the first
time. It will absorb better, feel softer, and any manufacturing oils that
the thread picks up will be washed away.
The following ideas are from Still Wetting
Let subbie wear a lot of ice cubes in the diaper. A cold diaper gives an extra
feeling of being wet. (they use to potty train baby's by having them wear a
cotton diaper without plastic pants...the diaper will chill by itself and
Second thing is that if subbie is a male it will shrink his weenie to baby
Last but not least...after a couple of minutes the ice in the diaper does not
hurt anymore (it does hurt especially between the legs in the beginning) but
if subbie wets it will feel like burning fire. Just like playing in the snow
with our gloves and warming them up later....:-))))
It's also possible to soil a diaper pad, preshape it and put it in the
freezer, but cubes work better. Cubes can be added easier to. If the cubes are
almost melted....just put a couple more in the diaper.
You could use urine to make the cubes...maybe your own...so subbies diaper
will be soiled with cold urine that's not his/her's?
Ice for leaking diaper humiliation
Something i use for public humiliation is the following.
Put subbie a bulky diaper on that certainly will be noticed under clothing in
public. Put plastic pants on to cover this diaper.
Now put a second pair of plastic pants on and no diaper in it.....just ice
cubes. Its best if the plastic panties are a bit tight. Maybe use the kind you
tie knots in at the sides.
As soon as the ice begins to melt....the water comes.....this will not be
absorbed and the 'diaper' WILL leak. You don't know exactly when and
where....but it will happen.
You could use urine to make the cubes...maybe your own so he/she leaks urine.
Urinate in subbies diaper
When a sub will get used to being in a wet
diaper. But if you urinate in the diaper while it is on it will feel extra
Let subbie wear a diaper until it is about to leak. (nice before bedtime).Now
put on a cotton sleeper and cover it with a rubber catsuit. Let subbie wear
this body diaper until it is soiled by the leakage of the diaper. It will feel
very nasty to be wet all over.
Something i call the incontinent plug. The plug should be as large as possible
with a hole in it as large as possible.
Have the sub take some laxatives and watch him suffer. The plug will stay in
place butt the mess will go through without without moving the plug.
To make subbie soil his diaper you could give him an enema just before putting
a diaper on.
Punishment diaper pad:
Have your subbie wear a (non absorbing) diaper pad made of firm material.
Make it wide enough (about 20cm) so subbie can not make their knees touch.
Very bulky to show under jeans (about 5 cm thick) and long enough to go
from front all the way up his rear.
The most comfortable way to walk with this diaper pad (that can be worn on
top of another diaper) is a toddler waggle. Going out in public subbie
will try to walk as normal as possible. But the diaperpad will force the
legs apart causing the inside of the legs to hurt as counter presser is
applied. A half hour could already result in friction burns. So eventually
will subbie will waggle anyway because it hurts to much to walk in a
Poison oak diaper
Have subbie wear a diaper full of poison oak leaves. The fear of getting a
diaper like this on is worse then wearing it
actually. It does itch and burn a little, but also give a sensual tickle
like electricity. The effect of the poison oak lasts about 15 minutes, but
the idea of having to wear it for hours is great. The rash on subbies
bottom last a bit longer :-) (picture included) UK readers use nettles in
place of the poison oak.
Steel chastity belt
Have subbie wear a steel chastity belt to prevent any touching of the
genitals at any time, diapered or not. Wetting
baby's should not be
allowed to play with themselves.
Also a chastity belt is great to hold a butt plug or dildo for more
discomfort. (pictures included)
Subbies bed should never be without a rubber or plastic sheet at a
minimum. Not just for practical reasons (protecting the bed for
leaking diapers) but also for psychological reasons. Having to sleep
on a noisy and crinkly rubber sheet is also humiliating. If subbie is bad....let him/her
sleep directly on it so he/she can feel the rubber sheet and sweat on
it while sleeping. Don't ease off on it when sleeping over at friends
or in hotels etc. Fit a sheet and leave the sheet on show for the cleaning maid to find. If
the sheets are stained with wet spots it is even more humiliating.
If you like to protect the bed even more which is a good idea on it
own or maybe punish your subbie more....use plastic protection for everything.....so
bed is in plastic...the mattress, the pillows and the coversheet
or quilt...all of it.
It will be hot...but you can clean the bed very easily.
Here is where you can buy such
Make sure you have plenty of diapers, booster pads, plastic pants
and other supplies. As with the rubber sheets psychological your subbie will know there is no way of you running out of supplies and so
avoiding you fitting the protection. Do not hide your supplies away.
Have them on full view. You could even add your subbies name on items
like disposable diapers like they do in kindergarten. Here they write
the wearers name along the fold of each diaper in the stack so
everyone can see who it is for. Make sure you use a permanent marker
pen for this so the ink does not transfer to any other garment.
Question to the reader?
I struggle between mindsets about masturbating. I believe a little boy or
girl should not masturbate at all because it is just not proper to do so.
On the other hand I believe that any arousal should be drained immediately
to make the other punishments more effective. An aroused subbie might even
LIKE his diaper punishment. But just after having an orgasm and all the
LIKE is gone and just the dislike stays.
The first thing can be accomplished by a chastity belt and denial of any
stimulation. the second is possibly uncomfortable orgasms (just keep
masturbating after cumming until it hurts) to drain all the hornyness. Or
just drain the hornyness just before other punishments.
Also included a picture of me in a steel bondage gear. Lying down in this
gear make you sleep like a baby, legs spread and hands near the head...far
away to touch anything. I was well diapered with pads in tie pants (the
kind that knots on the side) this kind of diaper really shows under
clothing. Plus I was wearing a rubber suit to prevent leaking and a gag to
Hope to read more from others soon.
Ever wondered who invented the disposable diaper?
1917-1998 The inventor of the disposable diaper.
Open Butt Plug referred to in the above?
received this article we, like many of you who have written in we were
intrigued. So we contacted the senders on this point and they us he had one
specially made based on a Proctoscope. So not having the funds available we
thought we would try the 'original' and simply purchased a proctoscope, removed
most of the long handle, reshaped the base using a 'dremel' and used that. It
has a flared base which stops it sliding into the sub's anus and with
lubrication it is safe and easy to insert. It is made just for that job after
about this gadget is you open or close the insert at any time which adds a nice
We added a
simple plastic harness to ours so the wearer could not expel the device and with
a shortened and modified ‘plug’ it’s a great aid to play.
The body of
the one we use is 26mm wide (1.02 inches) so it keeps the sphincter open nicely.
If you want smaller this company
http://www.nu-careproducts.co.uk/testing.html sells one at 22.2mm (0.87
inches) and a larger on at 30.0mm (1.18 inches). The difference in sizes may not
sound a lot but in this area it make a difference as to
how long it can stay in believe me.
looked at the stainless steel versions with the aim of mounting one suitably
positioned to a chastity belt crotch strap. Perhaps when funds permit……..
This is a
stainless steel proctoscope not expensive at £21 from
http://www.medisave.co.uk/kelly-proctoscope-20x50mm-p-3824.html or there
full range on
Interestingly when I visited this page they said that there best selling item
was a St Marks Rectal Dilator in err large!
Dear Lady A,
Can I just stress
a few points again regarding cloth nappies and plastic pants.
chlorine bleach or fabric softeners to remove stains from plastic or rubber
pants, rather insert the pant into warm water with a mild detergent.
pants in a dryer of any type, hang the pant to dry.
plastic pants, bibs and rubber items
plastic pants are stained and you want to remove the stain, try boiling the
pants in a pot of water on the cooker with a little detergent.
don't get too uptight about stains. I treat them as signs that they are being
used as intended. Almost a badge of honour! Anyway, I've got far too much to do
with my naughty sub!
with the nappies is really easy. Weed ones (my favourites!!!) can go straight in
the main white wash as its only a bit of wee (urine is harmless & sterile) and
the pooey ones need to go straight in a bucket of water to soak. You don't want
nasty indelible brown poo-stains or do you?
At the end of the day round up the pooey ones from your bucket and wash them at
60 degrees with a normal detergent & they will come out sparkling and white. A
little vinegar added when you would add fabric conditioner will make them more
absorbent. Do not on any account use fabric conditioner as it makes them less